It doesn’t take a genius to see if someone is an effective parent or not. All you have to do is observe that person with his or her child and see who dominates whom. Is the kid well behaved around the parent? Or is the kid the one who calls the shots?
It’s not a nice sight to see children throwing tantrums. But it’s not the fault of the child, really. After all, a child’s actions can be attributed to how an adult raised him or her. If you want to avoid seeing your kid shouting uncontrollably one day or doing something inappropriate in public, here are something things that you may want to avoid when raising them.
Always yielding to their wants in order to keep them quiet
When your kid asks you to buy him or her candy and then throws a fit when you say no, what do you do? Do you simply buy it for them to stop them whining? If you do, they’ll never respect you as their parent. If they sense that they will get whatever they want as long as they throw a tantrum, they will do this over and over again. Today, they’re going to ask for candies but tomorrow, they’ll ask for something more expensive. And if they don’t get it, they might become even more rebellious. Remember to be firm when saying no. You’re the parent; always remember that.
Leaving the parenting to a babysitter
Babysitters are there to protect your child when you’re away. They’re not there as substitute to you being a parent. There’s a good chance that a kid won’t respect your authority if he or she spends the majority of their time away from you. Make time for them. Spending time with your child is as important as providing for them. Remember how lucky you are that you can see your child whenever you want. In other countries, parents are often separated from their kids, especially in countries where there’s ongoing war and political strife, and they have to rely on charities to provide support to their children. Parents must always be there to guide their kids through childhood and, if they can, avoid letting others take their place, even if it’s for a short time.
Respect a teacher’s authority
When your kid is in school and a teacher reprimands your child, try to see things from the teacher’s perspective. After all, they were there and you weren’t. So when a teacher says that your kid displays problematic behavior, don’t be defensive and say, “My kid is not like that!” Teachers have no reason to lie to you, and they’re communicating with you in order to correct your child’s behavior. If you interrupt their disciplinary procedures, the child will never know what’s right from wrong.
Remember, a child’s early years are delicate periods of their lives. Make sure to always be there for them, and be a good parent by keeping these tips in mind.