If your kids are anything like mine, after school they go straight to their rooms. Backpack and jackets left in the hallway, but it’s almost impossible to get them talking. For some kids, they can’t stop talking about their day, the activities, their friends, etc. But other kids aren’t so talkative after school. I have so many friends who can’t even get a clear response to “How was your day today?”. So, I set out a way to fix this. It’s important to make sure your kiddos are communicating with you about school, the good and the bad. But if you’re like me and are frustrated with the lack of response, we’ve got you covered. Here are 6 questions to ask your kiddos after school to get some details about their day!
What did (teacher/principal) talk about today?
It’s important to make sure to ask your kiddos open-ended questions. If they just have to give a simple yes or no, it’s a lot easier for them to walk away, leaving you with nothing. Not only will you get some insight on what they’re learning in classes, it will force them to reflect on their day, too! It might even encourage them to pay more attention in class going forward.
What color was your teacher’s outfit today?
A little bit of a weird question? Yes. But, it’s a great way to get your kiddos to talk about their teachers and give you a chance to learn a little more about them. It may spark your kids to talk about something funny that happened in class or something they like about their teacher. Asking for specifics is a great way to get your kiddos talking!
Did anything worry you at school today?
More importantly – is there anything you’re struggling with? Anything you need help with? This isn’t a question I ask every day, because my responses would slowly get worse and worse. I try to check in every few days or once a week. For younger kiddos, this question might not be as important, but for the older ones, it absolutely is. I usually don’t get full details and have to keep pushing to get an actual response. More than likely, your kids don’t want to talk about what’s really bothering them. But, it may help start a conversation and help them realize what they’re unhappy about.
What made you happy at school today?
This is a great question, for both of us! It’s so much fun to see what’s going on at school. Half of the time, it’s a jumbled mess coming out of their mouths. But, I love them recounting their day and knowing they’re not having problems or issues.
Who did you hang out with today?
This is a great way to see how your kids are interacting with others. If your kiddos eat in a cafeteria, you can ask them who they sat with. Did they meet anybody new? Did their friends have any funny stories? If they don’t sit in a cafeteria, ask them how recess went. Did they do anything new, or learn a new game? You’ll get an idea of who their friends are and if they are any issues that might be a concern.
Did you notice anyone having a hard time today?
There are two great benefits to this question. For one, you get a great opportunity to teach your kids to think about others, and not just focus on themselves. Additionally, you get them to feel compassionate towards their classmates and friends and keep an eye out for them. This is a great chance to help your kids learn how to help others in times of need and maybe make someone else’s day.
It may be difficult to get your kiddos talking, but once you do, they may never stop! Communicating the good and bad parts of your kids day should be a regular conversation. It will not only help you keep an eye out for potential issues, but also help your kids grow and help others. What are some of your favorite conversation starters after school? Leave your comments below!