Helping Your Kids Calm Down
“I AM SO FREAKING MAD RIGHT NOW I AM GOING TO……” Stop. Let’s talk about anger.
Anger is a five letter word with a HUGE surface area. It’s an emotion, a feeling. So how can kids handle it differently than adults? Adults are more developed individuals. We are able to control our emotions and fully digest how we are feeling. We have experience in dealing with our feelings and coping with them. Kids on the other hand, not so much. Kids are young and are often times experiencing this emotion for the first time. They let their rage get the best of them. So, how can we teach them how to cope with their anger and essentially calm down?
How To Calm Down
The best idea is to have kids calm down first and then try to use their words. Create a safe space in your home or wherever you go. This spot can be in their mind. Just have them get them-self together and take a deep breath. When I was a child I was told to close my eyes and count to 10 while taking deep breaths. After I had done this my heart rate had slowed. I was able to return to normal and have a conversation about the situation. The importance here is communication. Communication is a skill that sets the foundation for everything in life. A successful communicator essentially becomes a successful person.
So before you or your child jump to becoming a cartoon character with steam coming out of their ears, take a deep breath, count to 10, and talk about it. Don’t sweat the small stuff, take a deep breath and calm down.