When your kids are growing up, it seems like they are always going through life at a different pace than you. And if you think about it, it makes sense. However, as parents, we must help them slow it down! Everything is a new experience to them; they are full of curiosity and are implored by the unknown. You, as the parent, are trying to manage your child by protecting them and guiding them towards responsible decisions. This collision seems like it will never end, but by slowing down with your child, it will become a lot less painful.
Pumping the Brakes
Putting the brakes on the different frequencies of you and your child’s lives in order to cultivate a deeper connection is easier than you may think. All of the time you spend in the car listening to music and not talking can amount to hours of meaningful discussion. You just need to make it clear between you and your child that you would like to spend more time listening to him/her.
It can be as simple as saying something like: Would you mind if we turned off electronics and talked for a while? I want to hear about all of the interesting and fun things going on in your life. Would it be okay if we used this time to do that?
Try to avoid talking about things that might create conflict or you will have a hard time getting your kid to ever participate in this set-aside time again. Make the effort to listen to what your child has to say without reacting. It is also important to voice your gratitude for your child’s time.
Being in the car and just talking can have so many benefits. Children can look at the window and ramble on without even realizing it. Certain things they see may spark thoughts in their mind that they are willing to share with you.
Create a moment in your car. Make every moment count when you are spending it with your child.