There becomes a point in your relationship when you and your significant others financial status, let’s just say become one. Talking about money can be difficult and rather awkward but to keep a strong healthy relationship this topic is not an option. Don’t let money come between you and your partner!!! Love may make the world go ‘round but money can bring even the strongest love to a dead stop. With this being said I’ve come up with 5 tips to help your relationship make it through the financial bumps in the road.
Your Spouse is not the issue, Money is
It’s very easy to take your anger out on each other, especially when it comes to talking about money. Debt can be overpowering, you work all month just to dig yourself in deeper in debt, increasing stress, which leads to fighting that can destroy your relationship and happiness. Don’t let money come between you and your partner!!! Take a deep breath and declare war together because the enemy is not each other, the enemy is your debt.
Find the right time to talk about money
The fastest way to sabotage your relationship is to lie to your spouse about money. Money should not tear you apart. Couples find it hard to talk openly about money. Your goal should be to have a calm, relaxed conversation with your spouse when there’s no particular money issue at hand. This way y’all can discuss money scenarios and come up with ways to resolve issues before they even happen. Money should not tear you apart. If you are open and honest with each other, you can overcome these issues together and it will make you stronger.
Have a limit
With having a speeding limit you and spouse can avoid unnecessary conflict. It is important to have a budget and follow it. But you can also have a little lead way here and there when it comes to smaller amounts (like $150-$200) that you can spend without discussing with one another. When it comes to larger amounts on more important things that affect the both of you, you should keep a budget and track all spending.
Put the IPhone down
Know the difference between home and work. Set aside time completely devoted to your wife, husband, and kids. When you’re at home lock your phone in a drawer. The most important people are right in front of you so give them all of your attention. Don’t take that business call or even bring up work at the dinner table. Family time is the most important time of the day so do not waste it away on the phone. This not only reminds you how much you love each other but also will recharge your batteries so you are itching to go back to work to kick butt.
Go on dates but save money
MOST IMPORTANT TIP OF THEM ALL! If you’re like me it’s the little things in life that make you happy. One day a week you and your spouse should have a little me time and just enjoy doing life together. Money, jobs, marriage, parenthood and so much more can become draining and stressful but the love you have for each other should never die. There are endless amounts of things just you and your spouse can do together without spending money. This will not only save you money and give you a break from talking about financial issues but it will most importantly keep that spark going. Because in the end if you have each other and put one another along with your love first all the bumps in the road and financial issues that come up will be easier to solve with your spouse by your side.
Don’t let money come between you and your partner!!! Communication is key (: