In a blink of an eye, your little girl is not so little anymore. It seems like yesterday she was 5 years old playing with her dolls and always wanting her mommy around. Now she’s 13, a teenager and so much has changed. The next few years may be difficult and exhausting for the both of you as she starts to enter adulthood, but there are several ways to keep a healthy mother/daughter relationship. Here are 5 tips to help you both survive the next few years and assure your teenage daughter that she has your love and support no matter what.
We were all teenage girls at one time so we know how emotional and over dramatic they can be. With this being said, a mother has to handle this in a different way that won’t push your daughter away. Expect bumps!!!! As they go through this crazy hormonal stage, understand that you will be the easiest target to take their frustration out on. Accept this and just hold on for the ride. It will get better!!
Communicate with your teen about what is going on outside of their home life (school, friends, boyfriend, sports, etc.). Have mother/daughter time set aside at least once a week. By doing this, you and your teen will bond in a way that will be priceless. Engage in a conversation even if they don’t feel like talking; keep asking questions that interest them and they will start to open up. This is one of the most important tools in improving your relationship with your teenager. So, next time you tell them “give me a minute,” or “hang on I’m busy” you might want to think twice. Put whatever you’re doing to the side and pay attention to them.
Love them unconditionally
Even when they aren’t very lovable, love them with everything you have. Your teen obviously knows you love them but knowing they are loved and feeling they are loved are two different things. As they get older feeling your love is very important. Make it known that even as their parent you are always there for them. They need to know that they can tell you anything even if it’s something you don’t want to hear. When loving your teen love hard!!!!
Forgive and Forget
Forgiving your teen for a mistake they make can be harder than it seems. While it is completely normal for a teen to make a mistake or two…. or several, they are human just like you are and they are going to have a few bumps in the road along the way. Holding onto these mistakes and not getting past them can put a hold on your relationship. With that being said, disciplining your teenage daughter can also be difficult but you have to learn to punish them for their mistake then let it go.
Don’t Give up
KEEP PUSHING THROUGH!! There is no perfect parent, just like there is no perfect teen. Y’all are learning and growing together. You will make mistakes, more than you will probably expect. Don’t give up!! Let your teen know you are doing the best that you can and that you love them. They need to know that no matter what you won’t give up on yourself or them.