There are many pros and cons when it comes to the society in which our daughters are growing up in; in particular, a major con would have to be society’s unrealistic idea of the quintessential female, which gives our daughters a distorted self-esteem. This is why, as one of their biggest role models, we must guide our daughters to be themselves. We must be the guiding force in boosting their confidence enough to be able to stay true to themselves no matter what. Here are some ways how:
Be Silly Right Beside Her
By allowing your daughter to embrace her silly and goofy side while also joining in right there with her, you are helping to create a lovable and happy human being who is not afraid to be herself. As she gets older, never let her lose sight of this person. A key to happiness is being able to laugh at yourself, and who better to do it with than your daughter. Jam out in the car to your favorite song together or dance around the house like you’re both starring in a music video. Allow her to see that “being perfect” does not mean being lifeless.
Teach Her How to Say No
In a society filled with peer pressure and conformity, it is crucial for her to know when and how to say no. She needs to not only recognize her inner feelings, but to also act on them. So, since the best way to teach is by example, show her exactly how to speak up confidently, act assertively, and challenge something passionately, all while maintaining respect.
Be Real with Her
Yes, it is a great feeling to know that your daughter thinks of you as some sort of Superwoman, but that does set the bar unrealistically high for herself. She will begin to think that there is no room for mistakes, which is completely not the case. When you make a mistake in front of her, be as positive and resilient as you can in the situation so that she knows that no problem is the end of the world. Furthermore, whenever you are nervous about something, such as a big meeting at work, or are feeling different emotions, let her into your world and talk her through your mental state. She will not only realize that everyone – even her superhuman mom – is truly human, but she will also gain a newfound admiration for you as a woman who is willing to take risks and go after what she wants.
Praise Every Effort
In a culture that revolves around everything’s endgame, such as where a kid is going to college or which team won the soccer championship, your daughter can often feel like every win or every failure is black and white. However, we all know that learning comes from the experience not the outcome, and we must teach our daughters that, too. This is why it is important to praise your daughter for every effort she makes so that her confidence and self-esteem is boosted. Thus, her motivation and resilience will be increased.
Remind Her of Your Unconditional Love for Her
Every daughter needs to know that no matter what she does, what she likes, what decisions she makes, and who she becomes, you will always love and support her. Regardless of how rebellious she may be at times, your daughter will always look to gain your approval. Even if you realize that she has lost sight of herself down the road, stick by her side through it all to help her find herself again.
While messages in the media do have an influence on your daughter, there is no influence quite like the one a mother has on her. You were with her from Day 1, and therefore have the opportunity to know her better than anyone else can. Take advantage of this opportunity by guiding her to stay true to herself every step of the way.