Do you ever think about the parent-child bond? This love is so powerful that it permeates your being.
Being a parent is like wearing rose-colored glasses. We see our children through a lens of passionate, burning, maternal love. Our love is an explosion of fireworks. We love our children in good times and bad times, in sickness and health. We love them in spite of fecal matter and vomit. We overlook and dismiss these things, casting them aside as insignificant and meaningless. None of that matters. The love we have for our children is an all-consuming fire.
Isn’t it funny, how your child is the most beautiful thing you’ve ever seen? Even if they’re not at their best. Their hair and clothes may be messy, but that doesn’t affect the way you feel about them. The parent-child bond burns brighter. Everything else fades away. Your child is the apple of your eye. You love them no matter what. Your love goes beyond unconditional acceptance. Your love could be described as oneness.
Your child knows, “Mommy and I are one.” It goes back to womb, when you were physically connected. In the placenta, your child breathed and ate via the umbilical chord. You met all of their needs. When they exited the womb, you continued to nurture and care for them. There is something very special about this relationship.
The love bond between parent and child is a driving force in our lives. It is so powerful that our children will spend the rest of their lives looking for it in someone else. In the future, our children will pursue a mate. Subconsciously, they will be driven by a desire to find oneness. They crave an electrifying, biochemical bond with a mate– a love so powerful that it will last forever. In sickness and in health, in wealth and poverty. Our children will crave the oneness that they originally experienced with their mother.
Sometimes, the test of friendship is whether or not you can “kiss and make-up” after a fight. It all goes back to the relationship we had with our mother, and how she loved us no matter what. When you look at a fire, everything else looks dim. We crave this type of all-consuming love and unconditional acceptance from others.
Our love is also exclusive. We chose our mate– selecting one person from thousands of candidates. In the movie Grease, the ending song said it all: “You’re the one that I want!” Other people pale in comparison to you, because you’re the only one for me. Troubles may come, but your love enables me to be victorious. Like a magnet, I’m attracted to you, and we will stick together until the end of time. When I’m sick, I want you to be there with me. When I´m happy, I want you with me too. In good times and bad times, in sickness and in health. Nothing else matters, because you and I are one.
The love bond between parent and child lays the foundation for life. It seems obvious, but we could easily take it for granted. We get caught up in the rush of the day. We get so busy that we forget to cherish and nurture the parent-child relationship. Whatever happens today, take time to tell your child, “I love you.” Remember that you´re the apple of their eye, and you´re the one that they want. “Mommy and I are one,” and this oneness is a driving force in our lives.
Writer Nicky VanValkenburgh lives in South Carolina with her husband and two children. She is the author of “Train Your Brain, Transform Your Life: Conquer ADHD In 60 Days, Without Ritalin.” Check out her website at www.Train Your Brain Transform Your Life.com