The birds and the bees talk can feel so… well, for the birds. However, these talks are more important than you think. While these talks may make you uncomfortable imagine the discomfort your babies feel when they hear about these things from others and have no understanding of their own. It’s time to stop hiding and help our kids understand sex. These ages may seem young, but our world does not see age and I can promise you, your kids have heard of the word sex before.
Keep things very brief and be very literal. Simplicity is your best friend. Don’t make it into an ordeal, this will cause questions. Don’t be secretive, this will cause a sense of wonder. While wondering is okay, we don’t want it to appear as sex is something secretive or bad. Use the correct names for male and female body parts. I know it can seem a little forward, but it’s important your children understand what those words mean when they hear them elsewhere. Teach them that marriage and pregnancy is a good thing. The won’t have too many questions at this age so you will be leading most of the conversation. Redirect inappropriate behavior.
This is the time to discuss male and female parts. Discuss the physical act of sex, nothing too in detail. You don’t want to scare your kids into thinking sex is bad but you do want to teach them that it is for marriage. Talk about how babies grow in the womb. Instead of thinking of sex as pleasure discuss it as the way to pregnancy. Talk about sexual abuse and the difference between good touching and bad touching.
Talk about changes in their body and what puberty is. Discuss emotional changes and the concept of dating.
It is important to cover these areas with your child so they are educated on the world around them. Not only will they be educated but they will know when to spot potential behavior and how to avoid potential danger. Sex is natural, it should not be frowned upon. As parents we decide the stereotype our kids will have on sex, so make sure you have prepared yourself and you are taking action.