Growing up my parents couldn’t stress enough how important being respectful, responsible, and kind, is. These 3 things helped shape me into the person I am today and I hope after reading this you better understand how important teaching your kids these lessons really are.
Effective Ways to Raise Your Child
We all want our kids to not only love us but to like us but as parents, you have to realize your child is not your friend. It is your job to discipline them and make sure they know they can’t talk or treat you like you are less than their superior. It is important to catch disrespect at any early age. It’s easy when they are at a young age to turn a blind eye to it and act like it’s okay but it is not!! They will first start by disrespecting you then it will grow and they will become disrespectful towards other adults and child. Nipping it in the butt at a young age will save you from a lot of headaches as they grow up.
Just like respect, you can’t wait till your child is a teen and expect them to understand what it means to be responsible. Don’t expect sudden miracles, it takes more than one talk with your child for them to be responsible. Make sure your kid feels the consequences. (For example: if your child doesn’t understand the concept of putting their dirty clothes in the hamper, leave them on the floor and don’t wash them. When they panic because they aren’t washed simply show them the hamper.) Don’t have to repeat yourself, make it clear that you will give your child one reminder and that’s it. Kids often rely on parents constantly reminding them to do something. Also working as a team and setting the perfect example can help kids better understand responsibility. Try setting the table together for dinner and once dinner is over one person clean off the table while another one washes and dries the dishes.
I’ve always said it takes more energy to be mean to someone than to simply be kind with everything you do. This is probably the most important lesson in my opinion because being kind and having a good heart can go a long way. How many of you grew up being told, “if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all?” This was drilled into my head as a little girl. The first thing parents need to understand is kindness can’t be taught; it’s a learned behavior. You have to lead by example; children better understand kindness through everyday interactions with their parents. Point out all the little things your child does, it’s not enough to tell them to be nice, you have to point out their moments of being nice. Teaching good manners such as “thank you,” and “Yes ma’am/no ma’am, yes sir/ no sir,” is an important part of raising a kind child.