This article tells about something a public school teacher did to help her students understand the value of controlling one’s temper and uncomfortable moods. There’s no reason why a parent couldn’t do something very similar in the home environment.
Jackie Harris shared a unique way to emphasize appropriate behavior in her classroom. I met Jackie while training teachers and counselors in West Virginia. At the time, Jackie was a Special Education teacher at Wirt County Middle School in Elizabeth, West Virginia.
Jackie put up a poster on the back wall of her classroom. It was a cartoon drawing of herself, complete with thought balloons of written reminders on how to maintain composure and “cool” when upset or angry.
At first her students were a bit confused as to why the poster was placed behind them. Just about all classroom posters are put where students can see them. Jackie then explains to them that the poster and its reminders (“Count to ten”; “Take a Deep Breath”; “Calm Down!”) are for HER, not them.
A Point to the Wall
Jackie shared she is convinced that having and discussing the poster with its reminders helps the students, also. Whenever a student is having a difficult day, a classmate just might tap them on the shoulder and point to the back wall. Nothing more needs to be said.
The best and longest-lasting lessons are demonstrated more than they are taught?
What a great tip. Any thoughts on how the same basic idea can be used at home?
Although a nationally recognized child and adolescent psychologist, author and speaker, Dr. James Sutton deeply values his first calling as a public school teacher. Today he is in demand for his expertise on emotionally and behaviorally troubled youngsters, and his skill for sharing it. Dr. Sutton is the founder and host of The Changing Behavior Radio Network, a popular internet radio program supporting young people and their families, and every month he publishes The Changing Behavior Digest, offering tips on managing difficult children and teens. Both resources (and others) are available at no cost through his website, http://www.DocSpeak.com.