It is 2017, and the tides have shifted. Cell phones are now the number one form of communication within most age groups. While it didn’t take much for kids to get on board with the shift from the landline to the cell phones if you’re anything like me you were still putting away your electric typewriter when cellphones made their way to the scene.
In recent years with many parents discovering the power of technology, it is easy to take advantage of the constant stream of communication that technology allows for, and parents are constantly finding new ways to use their devices to dive even deeper into their children’s lives–whether their children like it or not.
Here are 10 ways that parents use cell phones to badger their kids:
The primary method that parents use to badger their children. In a time when so many kids don’t even remember the days of landlines, and when most kids would much rather read a quick text than pick up a phone call asking about their whereabouts, phone calls are an easy way to get under your kid’s skin, and an easy way to wind up in their voicemail box.
Check any teen’s phone and you’re bound to find a voicemail box chock full of unread voicemails with a large number being from you. Leaving countless voicemails in your kid’s voicemail inbox is not so much a way to badger them as a way to ensure that they never receive your message.
Texting your kids is a quick and easy way to communicate with them, especially when you’re on different schedules. The badgering comes when parents discover things like emojis, Bitmoji, and text slang, and ever turn back. There’s nothing that drives kids crazy more than a parent trying too hard to be cool and hip.
When 8 phone calls in an hour just aren’t enough badgering, calling your kids from an awkward angle definitely does the trick! Nothing drives a kid crazier than having their parents’ face pop up while they’re out with friends, and they just don’t understand that sometimes we need to put a face to the voice/text. While Facetime is often a great way to communicate with friends and loved ones who are far away, when it comes to your kids, sometimes it’s best to save the face time for when you actually face to face.
In recent years man’s teens have strayed away from Facebook to other forms of social media like Instagram, Snapchat, and Twitter to get away from the often overbearing presence of parents and other adults on Facebook. Facebook is building a hard case about why it’s still the number one form of social media, but tagging your kids in 37 posts about college application tips, and commenting under each of their pictures how cute they are is not helping the case.
Taking pictures- you might see snapping countless pictures as a way to save memories of your kids before they outgrow hanging with mom and dad, but your kids might find the 28 pictures in your phone of them napping on the beach from your last family vacation as overkill.
The world is constantly becoming more and more dangerous, and things are certainly not the way that they used to be. While you may consider demanding your child to share their location every 10 minutes whenever they’re out with friends to be a necessary safeguard, they see it as a constant reminder that you don’t trust them. Those constant location requests are one of the most aggressive forms of badgering that parents can do.
Kids are constantly being bombarded with emails from their school organizations, professors, and classmates. Flooding their email about possible family dinner ideas doesn’t help much.
If you thought to take too many pictures was bad, you haven’t seen your child’s reaction after receiving 23 text notifications that turn out to be pictures of your new bathroom towel set–if you really want to perfect the art of child badgering…put this at the top of your list.
Family group messages can be an amazing way to communication with family members that you don’t get to see as often and can be used to plan important family events. The badgering comes when family members use the family group chat as the primary mode of communication with one another, and when grandma and grandpa decide to use the group chat to discuss the Thanksgiving seating chart at 9 AM on a Saturday morning in July. While you love talking to your sisters, brothers, nieces and nephews, your child might think that spending the holidays with them is more than enough.
The only thing that we can do, as parents, is to sit back, relax, and trust that we’ve done a good job at this parenting thing and that we’ve adequately prepared our kids for the real world. Don’t use cell phones and technology as a means to badger your children, but instead use them as a way to keep a healthy flow of communication. It’ll be the stress of your shoulders, and your child will greatly appreciate it. We were teens once! What are some ways that your parents badgered you growing up?